You may think it will never happen to you or that you’re too young for it to happen to you. The truth is, domestic violence and abuse is more common that people generally expect. According to WikiHow, 25-30% of women experience domestic violence and 1,200 women die each year with domestic violence, while two million women sustain injuries.
The quicker you’re able to recognize the signs of abuse, the quicker you’ll be able to get out and move on with your life. In relationships, it’s important to take things slow and not jump into something too fast. By proceeding with caution, you’ll be able to make better judgements and some of these decisions could literally save your life.
Not all abusers are the same but there are certain characteristics that you should keep your eyes open for. Many times, these abusers are very controlling and can fluctuate between emotional extremes, often times, bottling emotions up until they explode. They may have a history of abuse and violence in childhood and are often very charming and popular.
Look for signs of physical abuse and count how many times you’ve had a “honeymoon” period where he appears to be the ideal partner to draw you in. Realize that physical abuse may not happen immediately. Here’s a list from WikiHow on signs to watch out for.
- Pulls your hair.
- Punches, slaps, or kicks you.
- Bites or chokes you.
- Denies you the right to meet your basic needs, such as food and sleep
- Breaks your belongings or the things in your home, such as throws your dishes, punch holes in the walls.
- Threatens you with a knife or gun, or uses a weapon on you.
- Physically bars you from leaving, calling 911 for help, or going to the hospital.
- Physically abuses your children.
- Kicks you out of your car and leaves you in strange places.
- Drives aggressively and in a dangerous manner while you are in the car.
- Makes you drink alcohol or take drugs.
If you notice any of these signs, get out of that relationship. Get support. You don’t need to go through this alone. Inform you parents, friends, the police as well as the National Domestic Violence Hotline. Get to a safe house if you need to. Remember, you deserve real love and to be treated better.
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